挽留方法有啥的，有在花镇退款成功的吗

 doushuonanhaiziruguogennvshengtifenshou，neishijiuzhiyangdoulabuhuijia，zugoukandenanhaizitanlianaidekeguan。youzaihuazhentuikuanchenggongdemashuodaowanliufangfa，zuipadeshiyoukuyounaoqiuwanhui，erzaiciercixiyinwanliucaiyoukeneng。xiabianjiulaijiaonizenmezuoba!

挽留之知彼知己

 《sunzibingfa》libianjiangdao：“zhibizhiji，baizhanbaisheng。”，yisishijiarunichongzurenshizijihelingyifang，yiqiedezhanshinidouburongyishu。neimazenyanggenju“zhibizhiji”laidadeyingzheiciaiqingwanhuiduijueni?

A.认识自己

 nilejielingyifangzenmehuiyaoxiangfangqinime?shideyuangumeiyoutadeshenshang，zainideshenshang。yexushiyouyunidegongzhubinghuoshishitaiguoquefaanquangan。henyoukenenglingyifangcai2-3gezhongtoumeiyougennijianghua，niyejiubushufule，youzaihuazhentuikuanchenggongdemaxinfanle，gangkaishibabukaixindeyuanguguijiedaotadeshenshangle。suihoumata，zhizeta。zhizhitalaihongrenhaozhangshijian，nicaizongsuanjuedeshufule。huanweishei，shijianzhangledoushihuinanshoude，yehuileide。

B.掌握另一方

 dajiajiaowangshijianzhangleyihou，niyoumeiyouzhenshiquzhangwota，quaitani?haoxiangniyemeiyoubaozhengxuduo shier。tabixurentong、jiliheqinpei，ertongchangmeiyicinidouyouyuzishenquefaanquanganzheiyigeyuanyin，erjiangchulexuduo shangxindehua。naizhiyixiehuashifourentadesuoyou。zheishitahuishifenbushufu，zuoweinansheng，taziranburongyibiaoxianchulai，keshiniyongyuanbuzhidao，tazaoyizaixinzhongrangnifafenle。yinci dajiadetichufenshou，caitichufenshouyiqianjiuzaoyimingquele。

一切从改变现状刚开始

 yiqiannidewanliuquanshixinjishitakuanrongni，xinjigenjugenggaiwaibuziranhuanjinglairangzishenneixinshushi。shubuzhizheibushihaofangfa。youyuwaibubingbukeyirenpingnidebenrenxinnianxianggenggaijiugenggai。erlingyifangwangwangfangqini，yeshiyouyujuedeniyoushenmewenti。yinci yaoxiangbaituokunjingconggaibianxianzhuanggangkaishi。nilejie，dajiazhongjianwangwangneimeduonantidezhijieyuanyinshiyouyunimeiyouanquangan。ermeiyouanquangandehoubianshiyikebuzixindexin。ruobushibuzixin，yebuhuidanyoutahuifangqinile。yinci yaobaituozishenxinlidebuzixincaixing。