花镇情感咨询靠不靠谱？女性成长SV理论概述

 svdongnengguilvjuede，meiyigenvrendouwubichuangjianbingchixutishengziwoshiyongjiazhi，huazhenqingganzixunkaobukaopu？jiself-value(tongchengsv)。dajiatichangnvshisuiyidandu，zaiwanshandenvshifazhanzhishijiegouzhong，kaizhanduocengciduocengcidegangroubingji。

 “ninengbuxuexi，dannidedisanzhehuime?”yiqianshilanmudeslogan，dandajiarenshengjiazhibingbushichedifanyingzailuhuogaoxieshiyongjiazhidenanrenshang。

 wocengjingshuoguo“nibutaihao，butaikenengjiadehao。”danjiadehaozaoyibingbushiweiyiderenshengguihua——fandaoshi“youyunichongzuhao，yiqiedoushihuihao。”

#example1:#nishinayangnvren?

lixinpinyiqianzaiyipian《shengnv·fannv·nvshen》zhongneiyangpouxi，nvrenfenchengsanzhong：

 yizhongshifannv，zunzhaonanrendejiazhiguannian，yinanrendemuguangjuecezishendeshenjia，neiyangdenvrenhuodejiaoweianquanxing，danbuyidingdouhenkuailezide。

 yizhongshinvwang，tashenpangyoumuyounanren、shinagenanren、jiqitashidanshenhuozhejihunyidianyebuguanjian，youyutademeitaijushenxing，renherenyiyanjiubeitadeqichangzhimeiqinpei，xiangxilanvshen，daiannawangfei，chongmanlenvxingmeili，yejuzutianxingdeconghui、aiyudanliang，conglaonianrendaoxiaohaizi，congnanrendaonvrendouaita，zheiyileinvrenzuiyouxiangzhengxingdejiushuzhangmanyu，yousheihuizaiyizhangmanyubianshangshinagezongcaini?tazaoyigoujizhile，buxuyiqienanrenweitahualongdianjing。daiannawangfeideqichangyumeiwuyilunbi，jibian tameiyouhuangfeidezhenshishenfen，quanqiuderendouhuanshishenaizheta，doutongyibianchengtadechenmin。

 zuizhongyizhongshidalingshengnv，jiejinfannvhenvwangzhongjian，jibuganxinyuzuofannv，youmeiyoubianchengnvwangdezichanhedongneng。shuo”dalingshengnv”zheigecideren，dabufenbanvrenbianweiwujian，youyujinyouwujiancaiyou”daoqi”yu”kucunjiya”dedingyi，danhenlingrenfeijiedeshi，changchangshuozheigeciderenbingbushinanren，fandaodaduoshushinvrenzishen。

 nizenyangkandailixinpinsuozuodepouxi?nizenyangweizijijingzhundingwei?jiarunibingbuqingchuzishendaodishishei，chuyushenmeweizhi，renshengdaoluyaoxiangzhuiqiuwanmeinaxie，keyikanxiayigeshili。

#example2#nidechushengbianshinidedaibugongju

xiangxiangniyijinggongzuodedaoshang，jiadingnishiyigeqidanchegongzuodenvren。

 cike，niyijingfeijingfeilideshangpoqibu，zuoceyigeqimotuochedenvrenqingsong，feichierguo;youceyigekaichehaokannvren，budanyishunjianchaochuni，haibadimianshangzuotianwanshangweigandejiangshuijianleniyishen。yijingmaiyuanzhong，niyaoxiangqilechengfeijiheyouchuandefudajia，yibianganshoujiqingyusudu，yibianxiangyoukongzhongxiaojiezhouquandefuwuxiangmu。

 zheizhongdaibugongjurutongdajiadechusheng，fumuyongtamenjiaoda deqinfenrangnimailaidanche，dandajiazenmenulidengche，yeburubierenyijiaoyoumentaban。

 qidanchederenyibanzongshiheqidanchederenbianchengpenyou，youyubingxingchulideqingkuangxianenggouxianliao，bingqietanenglejienishangpoqibudefeijing，dajiasanguanyizhihuxianglijie。

erdajiadexiaobaobaoyehuichengjidajiadedanche，tingdajiajiangdancheyudanchedeaiqingxiaogushiheshenghuozheli。

 zaidajiaganjuebuhelideqingkuangxia，youxierenshiwomenhuitouqiaoqiaoliandancheyemeiyoudeluren，jinixuehaozhizuzhechangle;youxierenshiwomenpinbobadanchehuanweijiaoche，jiaohuinimanburenshenglu;minzuzongjiaorangnilingyitaogousi，gaozhidajiahuoxunikexunqinfenyishengyegaibianbushangzishendedaibugongju，neimenibibushanggaibianzishendexinlizhuangtai，guohaoyigepingchangrendancheshangdexingfurensheng。

 erqingyuxianggaosunide，shizhaoxunqiadangdeqinfenzhichengdianhejianchibuxiefangwei——youyubuzhengquedefangwei——yongjingdengche，rutongqinkuainongyongdidenongfu，bingbukeyihuandexingjiabigaodeyingli。

 shijishang，meiyizhongdaibugongjudoushihuirangwomenbuyiyangdehuanleyukunao。jiaochefangbiankuaijieshengshi，danyiyujiaotongdusai;dianpingchebuhaipayongjijieshengchengben，weikongwudian;danchehaoshifeili，danjiaqiangduanlian;tububijiaoman，quenengzhuyidaopangjingse。

keshi，tashiyizhongaqzhengchuanleguanzhe。

youyugaojidedaibugongjunenggousuishisuidichaihuanchengdidengdaibugongju，didengquebukeyisuishisuidichaihuanchenggaojidaibugongju。

huanjuhuashuo，renzhenshizhuiqiuwanmeideshiyizhongsuiyi，yizhongcaokongzishenrenshengdaoludedasuiyi。

#example3#biebeilaomujitangkengpianle

 youyigeyumin，tahenshufudetangzaishatanshangrishai，youyigeshengyirenkandaotajiuzouyiwanggentajiang，nizenmeneimelana，niyinggaizhanqichuhaidayu。

 yuminshuobuleyuyouruhe，tashuodao，ninengzhuanhenduoqian，nenggoumaijisouchuan，jiaotarentinichuhangqudayunizijijiuwuxuneimejianxin，jiukeyitangzaizheierananwenwenderishaile。

nageyuminshuo，xianzaiwobujiuhenshufudezairishaima?

 duomedeyuyishenkeqianxianyidongdegaoxiaoduanzia，quanbu“dancheshangderen”kanleyihoudoudedao lejudadexinlizhuangtaikaolv。zheiyigaoxiaoduanzideyanwaizhiyishi——hebineimaqinfen，rujinbingbushitingbucuoma?

 keshiniyongyuanbuzhidaodeshi，dangshengyirenliquhaibianhou，tanenggouqubeioufenghuabing，nenggouqubeijitanxian，nenggouqufeizhoubulie，nenggouqunanmeizhoutiaosangbawu，yaoshitazhuandaochongzudeqian，tadeyibeizinenggouguodebitarenjingcaifenchengjishibeiderichangshenghuo，ernageyumin，zhongqiyisheng，pobudeyirifuyiridedayu，meiyoubiedetiaoxuandezhipeiquan。

partbzhongguijichulilun:svdongnengguilv

yi.shenmeshisvdongnengguilv

 svdongnengguilv：meiyigerendouwubichuangjianbingchixutigaobenrengerenjiazhi，jiselfvalue，tongchengsv。dajiadegerenjiazhigezifanyingzai：

a：waizaishiyongjiazhi(externalvalue):rongmao

b：neizaijiazhi(internalvalue)：①xingqingtexing②jianshineihan③conghuibuju④lequyoumofengqu

c：shejiaomeiticengji(socialvalue)：huazhenqingganzixunkaobukaopu？zhangqixingpingwendeshejiaoquanzi

 zheisandacengji、liudacengmianshang，tamenxianghuzhujiulenideduyiwuerxinghebunengdaitixing。zheileiduyiwuerxinghebunengdaitixingbianshinidesvdongneng。

 congzongtishang，meiyigerendoushiyouqigerenjiazhi，zaiqizhongayibufenguanjianfanyingzainannvguanxizhongdeairenshiyongjiazhi，jimatevalue，tongchengmv。

 mvjichulilunlaiziyuayawawa，tajuedenvshizuizhongyaodeairenshiyongjiazhishinianqingherongmao，nianqingyiweizheshengyunshiyongjiazhigao，rongmaozhengshiyichuanjiyinhao。nanrenzuizhongyaodeairenshiyongjiazhishicaifu，yejiushifuyangshiyongjiazhi。

 weilegenghaodinenggougenghaodichengjihefazhanqushiayawawademvjichulilun，dajiajiangfengfuduocaimvzheiyidingyi，bingjiangmvdingyigaichengwaizaishiyongjiazhi(externalvalue)，tongchengev，laiyiweizhenvshidewaizaifengcai。

yiyangde，yingyongneizaijiazhi(internalvalue)，tongchengiv，laibiaomingnvshidebenzhifengcai。

er.zenyangkandaisvdongnengguilv

qianjitianwocengjingzaishequnyingxiaogongbushuoguoneiyangyigejianjie：shejiaomeiticengjifanyingzhenshidegerenjiazhi。

 youyubuyiyangrendebuyiyangawaizaishiyongjiazhi+bneizaijiazhi，doushihuizaibuyiyangshuipingshangduifuyucshejiaomeiticengji。youduodadongnengdea+bjiuhuiyouduogaocengcirencaidec。

 zhu：zheierhushichushengbutan，shiyouyujiatingchushenzaoyierrumurandeweihailenidebbiaozhi，erbbiaozhibingbushilaogudejingtaishujuzhi，zhishiyigedongtaixingfazhanqushidebiaozhi，jiezhubenshenqinfen，zaiwanshandenvshifazhanzhishijiegouzhongyiyangnenggoupingwentisheng ，danxiangyaonidelingwulilingxing+qinfenjianchibuxie。

keshicankudeshi，zaiqizhonglingwulihuigendezuoyong>qinfenjianchibuxiedeshijixiaoguo。