花镇情感机构正规吗？恋爱冲动者必备的三思而后爱指南

 huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima？chichedahuoeryiqizaixiuliandalushangkuobuqianxingyeshiyoujinxienianle，dajiahezhuweixueshengmendoufazhanlexuduo 。tebieshizaishiyijinqijiedaodenantikanlai，dahuoerxianjieduanganqingqingkuangdejibenmaodunyezaoyifashenglezhidefeiyue：

 cong“woduigaobiedanshendeyaoqiuheshouzhonggaolengnanshenfangfabunengzuodaogaobiedanshenshuizhun”dechuzhongjifenqi，fazhanqushilaidao“zenyangheshouzhongnadaodexiaogaolengnanshenhexiegongchuxianghuchongxiangmeihaomingtian”dehunyinguanxiweihubaoyangdefenqi。

十分为大伙儿觉得高兴

 shijishangni，xinchuxiandefenqi——hunyinguanxilidefenqicengchubuqiong，zuiguangfandeyuangubianshizaizuichuqingkuangxia，douhaimeichongyushijiankeguankaolvdao，jiushifenxunsu、qinglvdijindaohunyinguanxile。

zhongjiushaoyichiyi，gaolengnanshenkejiuxuyaoxiaoshile。

yinci jinriwomenjiujiangyixia，zaibixujinshentiaoxuandezhongyaoqingkuangxia，zenyangchenggongjizijizhengdedaokeguansikaodehuancunshijian。

(wenzhongpianshihekandaiyongxinlierukaolvdaofanchoudegaolengnanshen…men~

操作说明

 zhengdedaoguoduqidelingwaibubagaolengnanshendexixinhaoguang，hexinyaoyibianshiduitashuo：wozhishilinshibujienani，chedibuyiweizheshizaihuijueniya。

xiabiandajialaifenliuchengjieduxia。

1.“不接纳”是有缘故的

batingjiangaobaihoufanzadexintaizhuanbianchengxianchuqu，xianjixiaogaolengnanshenzuoyixiaxinlizhuangtaimaixiafubi。

 tazaiyanzhengzhengkannixiwangxiamiandeqingkuangxia，nixuyaoxiancongrongyiwaijingxi：“anijuededeshiqueshima”——biaomingnidiyifanyingshishifengaoxingde，shiqueshihenxihuantade。

 zaifanzayouyu(zheiernenggoubuyongjianghua，jinyongxiaobiaoqingbiaoshu)——biaomingnixiangqileyixienantidecunyou，nongluanlenigaoxingdejiaobu，keshihenxianzhu，bushiniduitadeganqingshangchulenanti。

 zaishangxinnanguo——biaomingxiangqiyoubukeyihetazaiyiqidegailv，jiuyaonishifennanguo。(xintaijifajishuxinghaodenvsheng，nenggouxianghupeihechuxianyidianweixiaoleishui，keshizheileizhaoshiqidaidahuoerliuyiyingyongchangsuohepinlv)

 neiyangdexintaizhuanbianquanguocheng，jiuqudechenggongjiangnidebujienagerenxingweishiyoukuchudeqingkuangzhuyaobiaoxianchuqu，neiyangjiexiaqudahuoergoutongjiaoliuqingkuangxia，gaolengnanshenhuichuxiandaliangdekuanronghelejie。

2.加强客观因素

jirannirengzaichiyi，biaomingdequeshiyouyoulvdeyuangu。neimaguanjianlaila：zenmeranggaolengnanshenyejienanideyuangu?

 tiyibazulandeyuangu“keguanhua”、waijiehua，ranggaolengnanshenganshoudaowomendoushiyutalizaitongyiqianxiandelaozhanyou，xianghetayiqibaituo“waijiemocazuli”zaiyiqi。

 liruyixiekeguanyuanyinxianding、dajialiangrendenenglianglinshimeifadiyudewailizuoyong，waidiyiyudejianju、babamamadedizhideng。nenggoutanchengxiangjianhegaolengnanshenlaiyicizhenxinshiyidegoutongjiaoliu，jiangyijiangzishendeyoulv，yongwanzhuandebiaodaxingshigentashangyi：“nijuede，womenyaozabanya?”erbushilizaitadeduilitichuzhiyita：“zheigewentiniyaoguozenmejiejuema?”

 jiaoweinandeshizheixiezhuguanxingbiaozhunde“keguanhua”。liruniyaozaiyiqiyoudanyouzhihoubushihe、xiangjiangchuquyoudanyoubeigaolengnanshenganjuetaijiaoqingzheizhongfenqixinlizhuangtai，yaoxiangranggaolengnanshengennitongyizhanxian，jiuxuyaoxunmidaozhizheileixinlizhuangtaideyuangu，biandadao“lijing”、“yunshi”、“jihui”dengwaijieyaosushang，suihouxiangjinjiangjigaolengnanshenting。

 julilaishuo，yixietongxuemendeyounianlijingbingbushihenxingfu，duizishendeganqingguanweihaijiaoweida，jiukeyizaigoujianlikaixinqifenhou，chengzhidigenlingyifangjiangyixierangzishenquefaanquangandeshi：“henershifumujiufenlile，wohaimeijianguohaodeairenrichangshenghuofangshishinaxie”、“tamenhuiweilegenghaodigezhonggeyangwuguanjinyaoduixianghushuozuibuhaotingdehua”。

 dahuoernenggouyizhaozishendezhenzhengyuanguzizhuchongfenfahui，keshitongyidajia，beihuaxinnansunhaiyinci xinshangjiuzhibuyuzheileihuajiububijiangguohaome。

zhaodaonenggou“beiheiguo”deyuanguhou，fenqixinlizhuangtaijiuburongyikanqilaijiaoqingle，nenggougenlingyifangjiangmingbai：

 liru：“woyizhicaiyiquanbuqinggandouneiyang，douzhunbeihaoguduyishengle”、“keshihenizaiyiqihoucaifajueyuanxiannenggouneimexingfukuailede”、“danyizhihuijinbuzhudanxinzheijinjinlinshide，jianjiandidajiayehuibianweitamenneiban。”

 zuizhong，weilegenghaodichengxianzishenshiqueshihenyouchengxinyaozaiyiqide，hainenggoumingquetichunidejiejuefangfa：“yinweiwohenfanganneiyangmeiyouzixinxindezishen，yinci ，nenggouzaibangwoyidianshijianma?wotaixiangyigengqiangdeqingkuangheniyiqiyongxingangkaishimeihaoshenghuole。”

 bashibushizaiyiqidezhudaoquanjiaofanhuigaolengnanshenshoushang，yibanzhuangkuangxiagaolengnanshendoushihuitongyi。daoci，duizheileihurangaobaide“dangchangdafujieduan”jichujinxing。

3.设调查限期

jiexiaqu，dajiabixuyigexianqi，yongxinqujiaowang、sisuojiujingxubuxuyaotiaoxuanhelingyifangzaiyiqi。

 youguanzheiyixianqi，bukeyilijiyibanyiyandishezhiweijigeyuehuoshiduoshaotian。qinggandeshibenlaijiumeishenmequelidejiexian，taiquelihuiyouyizhongweilegenghaodituoshijianeryaoshijiandemudigan。

 nenggoukuaisuyongwanxiaohuagenggaixiayiqianshaoxiandichendefenwei。liruzuochuyixieguoyibuqudemoyangwenqi：“wobujiushifoufanyingtaiguoqule?woshiyishijinbuzhuma~xiexienixiangyaopeizhewoyiqibaituo。neiyangba(muguanghurandongganmaoguang)，weilegenghaodijinzaojinxing，dajiaxianshezhiyigexiaomubiaohaole~”

 jiezhejiukeyitiyigeheshiliangrenduojiaowang、huibansuizheshijianjingchangxingtishengdezongtimubiao，liruyiqiyundongjianshen50ci，yiqinianwanmouyituijianshudanzheixie，xianjinxingderennenggoutiyigexinyuanneiyang。bingbiaomingzaizheigequanguochengzhong，dajiayehuiqinfenhuifubaituoxinlizhuangtaibugneiyang。

 zhidaodajialijingneiyangyoudianer“yutanlianai”dejiaowanghou，jichuyejiunengmingquexubuxuyaozaiyiqile。haixiangzaibeigaobaiyicisuihouzaiyiqide，jiujinkenengzaizuizhongzi(chu)ran(xin)er(ji)ran(lv)dibahuodejiyujigaolengnanshen。

 jiaruxiangwanyidianhaowanerdejuqing，nenggouqinfenzishenhuodejiyu，suihouzuochuxingfendewufakongzhiziji、keshihuanshiyaoguqiyongqibiaoshuqingyidepinpaixingxiang，gentajiang：“ganxienidechuxianhezheiduanshijiandekuanrong，cicirangwolaigennigaobaiba?”

 huoshi“qiangzhi”shitacongledajiawangdaodenvzongcaipinpaixingxiang，“wobuzaihuzongzhiwoyingle，nijiushiwodelebukeyihuiyue。”

 dahuoerhaikeyikaiqijiongyinaodongdakaigenjugezhonggeyang“zhongjiegongsi”defangfashedingdiaochaxianqi，yiqizhonghuajiamaoagouzuodaonaxiechengxiaozheixiedounenggou，suanhaodagaibixudeshijianhezaiqizhongdehudongjiaoliushuipingjiukeyi。

4.勾勒美好愿望

 jiranyikaishibianshibenzhe“qidainenggouyouyigehaodejieguo”dezongtimubiaolaide，neimazheiyiguanchaqishijishanghaikeyijianglianggerendexiangchumoshiwanggenghemudefangweizhengqueyindao，zheiyifangshideguanjianyuansushishengchanzhizaoyige“kandeqingdejianglai”。

 huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima？liruzaishenghuoqijudegegefangmian、meishimeikeduigaolengnanshenkaizhan“ziwoanshi”：diyi，niyizhizaiweilegenghaodidajiadejianglaiqinfen。dier，nideqinfenhegaolengnanshendeqinfen、gaolengnanshenjinideaizhengxiangguan。

 wozhiqianyigesheyoujiushifenshanyuzheileishijicaozuo，tazaigaolengnanshenxianliaoshi，huiyoushihoutijidajiazheizhongsheyou、haoguimimengennanpengyoulaidaonaerchiwanshenmedongxihaochide、qunalvyoupaileweimeidezhaopianle，meiyicitagaolengnanshendoushihuikuanweijianghaola，zhihoudajiayequ。

 suihoutajiuhuishuo“haoya，neimewoguojitiandekaoshigenjudehua，jiujiangshangwomenyiqiquwanya?”——tagaozhidajiashuo，tashiweilegenghaodibiaomingzheiyijieguoshitajingguobuxiefendouhoucaidedao de，suihounenggouchixuxunhuanxitongxiangjindeshijicaozuozhizhibianchengpingshifangshi。

5.突显特殊身份

 dajiayeyaozhuyidaoyidian：zhongjiushiyaoxiangyongxinkaolvdaodegaolengnanshen，wanbunengluanlai，ranggaolengnanshenduizishendezhenshishenfenyu“beiyongtai”youxiangdao，jiangyiqieweijimoshazaiyaolanli.

 yidingbixujingquedingweidehua，jiuzhuangzuozishenshimeiyouwanghou、meiyouhougongdehuangshang，gaolengnanshenshiweiyihuanghoude——chongfeiniliyuzhenxieshoubingjiankanheshandeneiren，zhichaleyigemingfenbale。

 jiaruzaizheigebenlaijiubingbushihenmingquedeqingkuangxia，ranggaolengnanshenjuededaozishenshi“zhangqifanpiao”huoshihougongtuan“tianxiacangsheng”zhiyi，neifuweiqilai，huoshixiangfujianxinrenganjiuhenmafanle。yinci ranggaolengnanshenganshoudaotacunyoudedutexing、biyaoxing、beixuyaoganhenzhongyao。

 jutizuofanenggouduozixiaoshiershangwajue，liruduigaolengnanshensongdelipinzhuyaobiaoxianchudutedepianai;zaixiezitaideyijiaotielegaolengnanshendexiangpian，shipindeqingkuangxia“wuyijian”beigaolengnanshenfajue;richangshenghuo、gongzuofangmianguanjiandeshierhuiranggaolengnanshenlejieerqielejiejianyizheixie。