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 huazhenqingganzixunshizhapianma？“gendahualejiedenvhaierfaguojihuishoujiweixindoumeihuiying，xubuxuyaoshanhao?”“gennvhaierliaodehainenggou，danbianshiyuebuchulai，yeyaobubizaici?”“gennvwangxiangchukuaiyinianle，youhuihenshuci，lipinsongxuduo，yeshizhijinkouguo，danhuanshibujienawo，yaojuebunengfangqi?”

zheizhongzixunzhedefannaoshijinenggoufenchengsanyibufen：

1，xinliyali。xiwangyueduoxinhanyueda，bijiaoyanzhongweihaiyiqiezhengchangrichangshenghuo。

2，caizhengfudan。qingchifan，youshihaisongli，shijianjiulesheidoushihuitongxinqian。

 3，jiyusunhai。weilegenghaodizhuyaobiaoxianduiganqingdezhuanyi，huijuechupengbiedeyixingpengyou，keyanjianzishennianjiyuelaiyueda，xinlimianbulehuangkongbuan。

 jianchibuxie，jiudaibiaozheyaozaicizijintouru，qiejieguohaibuquedingxing;sheqi，zedaibiaozheyiqiandetourusuoyoulangfei。jiujinggaizenmexuanze?

 yaoxiangqingxizheigewenti，huanshixiancongwomendecengcishengjijichuliluntanqi。zhangwomoguiyuehuixuedepenyoudoulejie，nannvjiaowangcongchedishengshudaoxingyingbulifenweisigehuanjie：dahuaguanlian—lejieguanlian—tongxueguanxi—qinglvguanxi。zaijinibi80%denanrengengdongzhuinvsheng(shang)neiyipianwenzhanglidajiabianshuoguo，shuobaileguanliandeshijiyiyibianshibicixianghurentong，ruguoyourenheyifangburentong，guanlianzebuhuiyou。

keshizaixuduo rendaoshenxiantanlianaiyihou，tamenhuigouxiangchuyizhongxusideguanlian——zhuiqiuwanmeiguanlian。

 shuotaxusijiushizhi：nanrenjuedewozhuita，wohetabianshizhuiyubeizhuideguanlian;dannvxingyaoshuo，jinguanzheiyinanrenzaizhuiqiuwanmeiwo，danwobingbuyinergentajiuhuiyouzhuiqiuwanmeiguanlian。

 zheijianshiqingcongluojixingshangtingnanlejie，wozuoyigexingrongba：nijiandaoyouyigerenzaijieshangmanpao，suihounigangkaishizaihoumianzhuizhetapao，xunsuneirenyefajueniyizhizaihoubianle，danjiaruniyinerjiujuedetashizaitaozou，nijiushizaixusidajiadeguanlian。

 huazhenqingganzixunshizhapianma？xuduo nvrengenyixingpengyoudeguanlianyeshineiyang，tamenjinguanlejieniyizhizaizhuita，dantamenpingchanggenniliaoshoujiweixin，genniyiqichifandeyuanyinhuanshiyouyudajiashipenyou，bingbushishuoniyizhizaizhuiqiuwanmei，bierengennixiangchubianshizaikaizhanzhaoduixiangle。yinci dangyixienanrenyinweijianchibuxiebuleerzhaoqingrentiaomingrangnvrentiaoxuandeqingkuangxia，nvrendoushihuiyilianmengbi——woshiyunichiwanchijidunfan，kewogenjiniguanlianme?(ziran，yeshiyouyibufennvhaierrentongzhuiqiuwanmeiguanlian，danrentongdejieguotongchangduinanrengengzaogao，dajiahoubianzailiao。)

 nanrenpingdinglezhuiqiuwanmeiguanlianyihou，tajiuganjueyingdangyouxiangduidezhuyaobiaoxianfangfale——jiranshizhui，woyaoxianggeyixingpengyoudemoyang。

 yixingpengyoudemoyangyingdangshishenmeni?guanjianbianshiyaoduitahao，yaozhuanyi，yaozhencheng，yaotiexin，yeyaobuqubunao……yaochangchangxianliao，yaochangchangyaoqing，meishieryaowenwenyounaxiebixuxiezhu，yeyaoshichangsongdianxiaolipin……zongeryanzhi，yaorangtajiandaoyigedabiaodejianglainanpengyou。

 yeyou，dangtayijianshixintailengmodeqingkuangxia，woxiangzhuyaobiaoxianchubuweijiannanqieerbushedexinxin，youyutahenyoukenengshizaimolianwo，jiaruneimejiusuibiansheqi，neiyouzenyangcaikeyishuomingduitashizhenxinshiyi?

 zhishangzheizhongniantouduimeiyoutanlianaideganjuedereneryanjibenshangshilisuoyingdang，danshijishangqueshizaocheng tamenchengdanhuaxuewuzhiyalihejingshentongkudeguanjianyuangu。(julishuoming：yixienanrengenxiangqinyuehuilejiedemubiaomeitiandianhua，shishishangxianghumeineimeduohuashuo，dannanrenganjuebudabushihe，yinci shiyaozheyalianluo。)

 yizhaocengcijichulilun，xiangchuzhongdenanhaihenvhaijinyousizhongguanlian，bingbuhuiyoudiwuzhongzhuiqiuwanmeiguanlian，qiezaimeiyigeguanlianhuanjienei，shuangfangdouyinggaishigongpingde。(jieshangbiandeshili，jibian womendoushixiangqinyuehuilejie，yaoshihaibingbushiqinglvguanxi，neimajiumeibiyaomeitiandianhua。)

 zhuiqiuwanmeiguanliandehuaichushibanvrennanrenbianchenglejiafangyifang，bianchengleyizhong“woyouenyuni”deguanlian，yidanjinrulezheileiguanlian，neimazhiyouwozijixianzuodaolenideguifan，caihenyoukenengjiniyelaikaolvwodeyaoqiu，yincizhuiqiuwanmeijiubianchengyigedanfangzishenzhengshidequanguocheng。

 dannantishi，dabufendangdainvxingyagenyeburentongzhuiqiuwanmeiguanlian，tamenjienadezhaoduixiangfangfashi：dahuoerzaigongpingjibenshangdexianghuxinren，xiancongpenyouxueqi，jiaruxianghujuedefeichanghao，jiukaodejindiansuihouzaicizhangwo，yaoshimeiyoujuede，zanjiulakaijuli。

 zheierdajiabashangbianshuoguode(jingshenshizhi、jingjifazhan、jiyu)tongyishuliweizhuiqiuwanmeichengbenfei，chunsuidexianghuxinrenburongyirangyixingpengyouyujiejuechengbenfei，jinyoudanbianzhengshicaihuichuxianyifangbixuqianqihenduozijintouru。

neiweihedanbianzhengshihuishiyixienanshizaizhuiqiuwanmeishidexiayishini?

有两个缘故：

 qiyishijiusixiangdeweihai，yiwangneileixiaofanchoudeshehuifazhanfangshi，renzhongqiyishengzhiyouchupengdaobijiaoyouxiandexingmubiao，cikeyingyong“chengxin”shiyouxiaode，pengdaoxinaimubiao，jiujiangnide“chengxin”(shenhoubianshinideziyuan)yigunaodizijintourujinlai，yinweilingyifangkeyichupengdexingmubiaoyebijiaoyouxian，yinci tayexiangyaogenjuzheileifangfakaizhandiaochazhangwo。

 qiershinanrendechongdongbennengfanying，zainanshijiandaonvrendediyiyishunjian，chongdongbeijiqiyihou，nanshibianyouyizhongyaoxiangzhanjudebulizhi，ciketamenyagenbuyong“zaiquzhangwo”，tamenzhiweigenju“duju”shidetourumashanghuodezongtimubiao。

 keshi，zheileidanbianzhengshizaocheng deshijishangshinanrengennanrenzhongjiandeshichangjingzheng，rutongshiqunhehouqun，nanxingyaoxiangzhanjucichong，neimejiuxianbabiedenanxinggongzuozhifu，suihouyingjiatongchi。gudaishehuijinguankanshangqushinanxingdingqinrangnvxingjiazhongtiaoxuan，danshishishanghuanshicaichenshidadenanxingjiazhonglaiding。

 erxiandaishehuizaoyibushizheiyangdefangshi，tanlianaideshizhibianchenglenvrenzishendetiaoxuan，nanshengzhuinvshengyoudianxiangzhaogegongzuo。nixiangyaoquyijiaqiye，butaikenengxianbaquanbubiedeqiuzhizhemiediao，huoshiweixietamenmeiqumianshi，nizhiyourangmianshiguanjuedenibibiedeqiuzhizhedouchusecaikeyibeiluqu。

 danshinantishi，jinguannizaoyiburongyishadeneimachushile，dannideshayibuliushenbianchenglelingyizhongfangfa。liru，weilegenghaodixianshixinxinidechengxin，nigenzhaochengderenshuo，wopingdingdajiaqiyele，woyidingburongyirangdajiaxinhan，rangwolaiqiyezuoxieshierba，gangkaishibuyongxinshui，naizhiwodaozhuiyexing，yaoshijiwogejihui，rangwolaizhengshizishendegongzuonengliduideqishangqiye。

zheishihounihenyoukenengpengdaosanzhongfuzeren：

diyizhonghenyoubiaozhunhenqianghan，talijijinizheileierhuogundan，youyunijiaoluanlebierendegongzuozhongchengxuliucheng。

 dierzhongfuzerenmobukaiqingmianyouyoudianhulihutu，yincijiukannimeirilaiqiyebangdahuoerkaiguanmen，dasaozhenglifeiqiwu，youshihoutayehuilaiquannibiezheiyangle，dajiahuiyijuqiuzhizhedegongzuonengligongzhengtiaoxuan，dannishaxiaozheshuo，meishier，woyuande。

 zheixiedanxinyufangyongbufangqideren，duoduoshaoshaoyixiexiangzheiyi“bucilaoku”deqingnianren，danwuluntazenyangyixiangqingyuan，qiyererendebiaozhunshizhongbubian。

ganghao，dangdainvxingzhaoduixiangdefangfayeyulaiyutiejinqiyereren。

 yinci lijinghuizong，nantideluojixingshineiyang：chuantongshishehuifazhanxiaofanchoushejiaomeitifangshi(fengbishixiaoshoushichang)——zaocheng zhuiqiuwanmeiguanliancunyou(nanhaihenvhaidoushihuirentong)——xiandaishehuidafanchoushejiaomeitifangshi(kaituoshichang)——zaocheng zhuiqiuwanmeiguanlianyibucunyou(nvxingyiburentong)——guzhiyuzhuiqiuwanmeiguanliandenanrenchengshoubuzhudanbianyujiechengbenfei。

 jieguo：bingbushisheqizongtimubiao，zhishipaoxiayixiangqingyuandezhuiqiuwanmeiguanlian。nanhaihenvhaiquanshigongpingde，xiaijiubaochilianluo，denghouxianghurentongdejihui，zaishihouweidaoshimeibiyaozaihuaxuewuzhihejingshenshizhishangjuezijintouru，meiyoujuezijintouru，dangranyejiumeilegongzuoyalihetongchu。

 zongdelaishuo，jibian zaixiandaishehui，youyibufennvxingyehuizaiyixieqingkuangxiarentongzhuiqiuwanmeiguanlian，dantamenzuihouyiranhuiweilegenghaodizishendequanyilengkuwuqingtiaoxuan，zheileirenjiuyoudianxiangshangbianxingrongdedisanzhongfuzeren，zaixiangchuquanguochengzhongduinanrendegezhonggeyangtouruhaobuzaiyi，tamendeniantoushi，nixiangyaoneiyangzhuineimejiusuirankuailai，duiyujieguozenyangwobuhuiquebao，danlipindanshiburongyituihuide，kaixiaogengburongyigenniaa。yinci ，pengdaoneiyangdenvren，zongshirangpingdingzhuiqiuwanmeiguanliandenanrengengweibuxing。