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youbeihuazhenpianguodema？meimeiwomenjuedinggangkaishiyiduanguanxideqingkuangxia，

xinlizonghuiyouerzhongxintaibuduanchuxian：

喜悦和惊慌。

tamenxiang2gezhangqilibuledepengyou，

xiyuehenhuoyuexing，chujingjiyugao，kanqilaihenyouyouyuegan;

jinghuanghenjianmo，butaijianghua，danyedequecunyou。

liangzhezhijianzaiziwodeshijieshouyouchixudanxin，

haibibushangyiqikaikanyixia：

dajiazenyangcaisuanzuoyudaolezhongshenbanlv?

dajiajiujingyaoxiangnaxiedeguanxi?

meiyigeren，doucengxiangxiangguozishennengyouzheyiduanjizhiguanxi。jiunaxuduo nvshengdexintaieryan，youbeihuazhenpianguodema？tamenbujinyougongzuonenglishiyan“daren”derenwujiaose，youqipanxiangyouguanxizhong“xiaohaizi”deneiyibufen，yinci jiuhuijingchangzai2geqingkuangzhizhongbaidong。

zhongjiu，nayigenvshengbuqidaizishenchongzhezheni?

jianyieryan，zheishiyigezai“touru”he“huode”zhongjianhengliangdenanti。

zaidajiadexintaihedongnengshangzhangshi，dajiaqipanxianglingyifang“touru”。liru：pobujidaidigentagongxiangmoulvxiaideyingpian、zaijierizixinmanmandezuoyidunzhuhuoyanhui、yihuoshizaichuguolvyoudeqingkuangxiachanzhetaguangjiegouwuzhaoxiangshuipiaoquan。

zheileiqingkuangxia，dajiazongqidaibazijideliruyuyue、jidongheaizheizhongxintaisanfajilingyiban，rangtakeyijiandaozishenerqieshenyoutihui。zaizheigequanguochengzhong，dajiatongchangshibuqiuhuibaode，yeshishenaimimanzhede;zheiyishike，womenzaiyongyige“daren”defangfakandaizheiyiduanguanxi，yezaiyongneiyangdefangfayanyi“ai”。

xiangfan，yixieqingkuangxiadajiahuijuedefushang、cuozhe、jiaolvqingxuhuoshigudan，dajiaxiangyigediulexinyixiaowanjudexiaohai，qipanbeixiangyong、beikuanwei、shenai。jiaruzheigeshihou，tahuixuehuifangxiayiqielaipeizheni，laiguanxinnidejuedehexintai，neima，niyejiuchuyu“huode”deqingkuang。niyehuijianjiandijingxiaxinlai，jianjiandiganshoulingyigerenshouxindewenduhuoxiongfudemianruan。

meiyoucuo，dajiameiyigerendaoguanxiliyizhipanghuangwangfushizaizhengfujizhongjian;

一如大家的关系，

yechangchanghuizai“touru”he“huode”zhongjianmanmanpingjing，

zheicaisuanshidajiaqidaihuodedeguanxi。

danhenduorenfeichangrongyizaiguanxizhongfushang，feichangrongyiguoduxiwanglixinghuadeguanxierhulveleshiji。yinci ，zaijuecegangkaishiyiduanguanxiyiqian，jiuduizheiyiduanguanxiyouyidingkaoliang，yeshiyizhongziwojiazhi。

nihuodededaodishishouhouhuanshihuangdu?

zuixian，yaoxiangmingquezheiyiduanguanxinishibushidelixianghuaguanxi，xianyaokaoliangdebianshitazhenduinideshouhoudaodishifouzhenshouhou。jianyieryan，bianshizhenduixingdebianbie。

jiufangfoyigenanshengchangchanghuiyueyigenvshengchulai，libaitiankandianshiju、buyaojinhenaicha、changchanglangrenshayouxi。zhangciyiwang，zheiyinvshenghuijuedeliangrenfangfohaitingheyan，nanshengneimejijidaduoshuyeshiduizishenyouqu。shubuzhi，zheiyiduanguanxizuizhongqueyinanshengdewaiyuerjieshu。nvshenghenyihuo，nandaoshuoqueshibukeyiaiqingzuimeililemeiyou?

并并不是。

zheiyinvshengjinjinmeiyourenqingnanshengdemudibale。

jiarushuoheyigerenzaiyiqishiyizhongmudidehua，neicushizheiyimudidequdongliyidingshizheiyi“ren”bingfeiqita。ruguoshiqueshiyouyu“duiniyouganjue”，huoshiyouyu“xiangjianniyimian”eryuenichulai，neiyangyouhuidezhurengongzishizhizhongzai“ni”deshenshang，duiyuyuehuiqunali、fangfazaizhenzhengdeaiqingyanqianyedoujinjinchentuo。

dan，jiaruzheiyinanshengyuenichulaidejutimudijinjinweilegenghaodi“shashijian”，huoshi“yigerentaiwuliaole”，neima，zheiciyouhuidezhurengongjiuzaoyimeiyoujiushinile。niyejiujinjinhetayiqichuququwande“dazi”niyejiubianweichentuole。

yinci ，nanshengduinishiqueshi“shouhou”huanshi“shundaiyueyue”yidingyaorenqing。biebashunbiandangzuoheyan，“dadang”zheiyirenwujiaose，sheidounenggoudang。

03

shi“wo”huanshi“dajia”?

yijieyouyigepenyou，tahenvyoudouguishuyu“rongpiaoyizu”，chuduixiangtanlesiwunian，danhuanshizhandelebude。yiqianyizhihenhaoqitamenshizenmezhangqiweichizheileilianaiqingkuangde，lejieqianyiduanshijianfajueleyigemimi：zheiyipenyoumeiyicigentanvyoujianghuadeqingkuangxia，yongdezhuyujichudoubingbushi“wo”，zhishi“dajia”。

tashigebudadeguanjiandian，danquejibenshangqiangjingdaonenggouzhichengdianyiduanchijiudeqinggan。weihe?youyuzheicaisuanshiganqingdezuihouxingzhuang：jiandaoxianghu。

rutongshuo，niyutazaiyiqideqingkuangxia，tayizhizaishuo：“woruheruhe”、“woyaozenyangzenyang”deqingkuangxia，shiduoshaodoushihuiyoudianercuobaigan。zheishiyouyulingyifangfangfomeiyoubazijiyekaolvdaojintade“jihuafangan”liqu。youshihounaizhihuiganjuezishenshigexiaomianren。

danshi，dangjianjiandiba“wo”bianwei“dajia”deqingkuangxia，bujinjinshigenggaileyuyangoutongjiqiao，yeshiyizhongbudanshikaolvdaobenren，zhishikaolvdaoquanbuguanxideyizhongxintai。neiyangdeqingkuangzhenduilianreneryan，kendingshilianghaode，jijiandaohezhongshixianghudejianjie，youbuqiangzhi“bangpiao”lingyifangdezizhuyishi。buyanzimingbianshi：womendoushiqinmiwujian、hemude，dajianengjiandaoxianghu、qianjiuxianghu、zhaoguxianghu。

zuizhongdeyidian，yeshizuizhongyaodeyidian：tashifouhuijinidanqiquanqiu?

huanjuhuashuo：tadaodinengweiniheshenmeliliangduikang?

yingpian《zheigeshashoubutaileng》li，meishaonvmadierdaxinganqingyuangenwenmingshehuide“jibenchangshi”zuoduikang，zhiweilegenghaodinenggengqinmijiechulisiben;lisibenpinminggenzishendemeirirenwuheyunshizuoduikang，zhiweilegenghaodinengmadierdadedao suiyi。zheiliangrenzaiduikangli，kangqilexianghujiaowangdeneiyidiandianshineikongjian。

jinguanshenghuoqijubingbuhuixiangyingpianneibanqiqifufu，dan，“yigerenkeyiweinigensheiduikang”neiyangdenengliangduiqinmiwujianguanxideweihaishiburongyibiande。

jiading，yipengdaoderenshaoyipengdaocuobaihuoshijianxinbianhuisuiyisheqi，huoshiwangzizundade“bixushenzhongkaolvyixiale”，neima，zuishaonenggoumingquedeyidianshi：niyizhizaitaneixindeyingxiangli，yagendibuguotaneixindejiannan。

jinguan，tameiyouneimedadenengliangdanqiquanqiu;jinguan，tahuishaoxianpibeigandanyiranmeiyousheqi;jinguan，tabuzenmehuijianghuadanyoushihouquehuijiangchu：“biehaipa，youwo”;zhei，jiuzaoyijiushinidequanqiule。