怎么让花镇退款？如何避免重蹈上一段的覆辙？

 zenmeranghuazhentuikuan？yiqianyouyiweilaoxueshengxiaoqing，tadenantishiyulaogonglianggerenchangchangyouyuyidianxiaowentijiuyinqizhengzhi，yongtadehuashuo：

 “jiaoshi，worenweiwomenjiehunlezheisannian，chukaishangbannianmeizenmechaojiazhiwai，zhihoujibenshangshimeitiannaobieniu，yizhidaoxianzai，wojuedetasuichubukanbuguan，takanwoshinaerdoubutaihao。

 wozhaoninbaokaoshixiangrangninbangwozhaogaizhengdeyuangu，gengbuyuansangshizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo，youyuwozaoyiliyiguoyicile，jiarucicizailiyidehua，shuozhenhuawoqueshiyoufeichangdadegongzuoyali。

 buyaoshuozaiduliyidanyouzhaobudaonanpengyou，jiuwobabamamaneiyiguanwohaizoubuguoqu，yinci ，woqueshihendanyouwomendeguanxizaineiyangxialai，zhongjiuhuiliyi。”

 yingduizheileizaoyijingliyicihunyinshenghuo，zongsuanjindaoxiayiduanhunyinshenghuoyingdangruhequyunyingni?jinridajiajiuduiyuzheigewenti，tijigefangmiantiyi：

●yi、zhenglidiyicilihunyuanyin。

meiyiduanhunyinpoliebutaikenengjinyouyifangyouyiwuhuoyoushenmewenti，jinjinxianghuyiwushiduoshaodenanti。

 yaoxiangyunyinghaodiercihunyin，fangzhiyicuozaicuodehua，bixuliuyidedianshi：bukeyizaifanfudiyicihunyinshenghuochuxiandenanti。

 rutongshangbiandajiashuodaodexueshengxiaoqing，woliangyongleyiduanshijianlaizhenglidiyicihunyinshenghuodelihunliyou，zaiqizhongyigehenzhongyaodenantishi：xiaoqingshiyigezishenguidinghengao，duiairenguidingyehengaoderen。

 zenmeranghuazhentuikuan？liru，xiaoqingyoujiepizheng，yihuidaojiajiulikewubixianquweishengjiantuodiaoquanbudeyifukuzi，zailimiannashouxihaoyifukuzi，suihouxianzaowanzhihouzaigangkaishizhufan，zhenglijiawuzheixie。

 taneiyangdegerenxingwei，ruguobuguoduoweihaizishendeqingxuyurichangshenghuo，youqibushiweihaiqinrendehua，shijishangzheiyemeiyoushenme。

 keshixiaoqingyeguidinglaogongwubifanhuijiazhongxianchongruweishengjianxianzao，naizhiguidingxishouxiaodushichukaiyongxishouxiaoduyezhiwai，haiwubipenxiaoduye，gengfukuadeshi，tameiriwubinazhanleyichundemianxucaxijiazhongdemeigeguankai，baohanshuikoulong，menlashouzheixie。

 danggukegandaojiazhongshiyewubiyongyicixingtuoxiezaijiashangjiaotao，yeyaoyongyicixingbeizi，gezhonggeyangguidinggaodejiapoyuqinpenghaoyoumenyebumishangtamenjiaqubaifang。

 ziran，jiepizhengdenantichanshengyuyizhimeiyoudajiajinridetantaofanchounei，dajiaguanjiantantaodeshi，xiaoqingbenshendezheigewenti，shiyinqihunyinshenghuodezaiqizhongyigeguanjianyuangu，zheirangqianrenlaogongtongkubukan，changchangyinqimaodun。

●er、zhangwoxianghudechabie。

hunyinshenghuozhongyouneimeyijujingdiandehuayu：lianggerenyinbulejieerwanhun，yinzhangwoerliyi。

 yinzhangwoerliyi，yigehenguanjiandeyuangushi：dangzaihunhoushenghuozhongdeshijianyuezhang，yuejiandaoxianghudechabie，yueganjuelingyifanggendangshijiandaodeyuxiangxiangdehenbuyiyang。

 zaihunyinshenghuoyizhizhongchangchanghuijiandao，zaocheng fufumaodundeyigeguanjianyuangushi：womenwufajieshoulingyifangyuanbendemoyang，yizhiwangtugenggailingyifang。

我经常跟学生说：

 nikeyitaoqianlaiyaowo，texianggaibianxianzhuangdoubuyigenggaile，hekuanglingyifangyagenjiumeiyishidaozishenyoushenmewenti，bingqietayebuyuanyigenggai。yaoxianghaodehunyinguanxi，zuixianbixudeshitigaozijiquweihailingyifang，erbushigenggailingyifang。

 dajiahuanshizaiciyixueshengxiaoqingdeshililaibiaoming，zaihoumiandexiangjinzixunzhongzhangwodao，zaocheng xiaoqingrujindehunyinshenghuoyoushenmewenti，jiepizhenghaibingbushizuizhongyaoyuangu，gengbijiaoyanzhongdeshixiaoqingdexingqingzhizhongyoujiaoqiangdezhangkongyu，neiyangdezhangkongyurangrujindelaogongxiaozhaohenchibuxiao。

 liru，xiaozhaowanhuijialebuhao，jiabanjiadianyebuhao，gongchugengbuhao。xiaoqingyizhiqidaixiaozhaonengmeirizhunshixiabanhuijia，baohanmeiridechidecaipudoudeyankeantadefangfalai，naizhilianqingjiahuofangjialequnaliwandoudecheditingtadefenpeizheixie。

 yinci zhangwoxianghudechabie，nenggouzhangwojiatingguanxi，chengzhanglicheng，shenghuofangshi，xingqing，siweimoshi，gerenxingweifangfa，jiazhiguannianzheixie，bingzhongshixianghudechabie，rongxulingyifangdebuyiyang，lingwaiyerongxulingyifangzaihunyinshenghuozhongzuohaoziji，caikeyizaijiaowangzhongxiangduixingqingqingsongsong。

●san、weifenqiligechengnuo。

 meiduilaidaoliyidefufujianxindouyoudouyoudelihunliyou，danyouyidianshileiside，neibianshilianggerencongyoufenqigangkaishizhujianyanbianercheng。

 yinci ，zaifenqichanshengzhihou，xuehaojixianghudemaodunligechengnuo，jiranglingyifangshiduzuohaoziji，lingwaiyounengduiguanlianyouxiezhu，neiyangdehunyinshenghuocaikeyichijiuxialai。

 wohaishiyixueshengxiaoqinglaibiaoming，dangxiaoqingyishidaozishendenantiyexiangyaojijizhudongqugenggai。lijingyiduanshijiandezixunzhihou，xiaoqingyexiangyaoyurujindelaogongxiaozhaoqugoutongjiaoliu，bingxianghuligechengnuozhihou，shijixiaoguofandaobiyuanxianhaoxuduo 。

zhihouxiaoqinggenwoyijianfankui：

 “jiaoshi，ninshuodefangshiqueshihenyouxiao，zhihouwojiuyonglenindefangshi，genwolaogongyongyouchengnuo，zhihoutahuijiawuxuxianquxianzao，zhibixuhuanxialaijujiafujiukeyi。

 zailiru，woyiqianbuyunxutayeliwaichu，rujinwogentashuodao，jinkenengbubichaochu12dianhuijiale，jiaruqueshichaochu12dianhuijia，tongdianhuagaosuwoyixia，lingwaibangwoyidingdepeichang，liru，chixuyizhouzhuanchejiesongwoshangbanhuojiwofahongbaozheixie。

 zheiyangyilai，budantaganjueyouzishendeshineikongjianyejuedebiyuanxiansuiyi，lingwaiwomendeguanxizhongduoleyixiexiaokuaile，guanlianqueshibiyuanxianhaoxuduo 。